Lost my wife recently

By spudster on Thu, 10-20-11, 20:46

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Lung Cancer

Not sure I belong here but am looking for support. I recently lost my wife at the early age of 52 years old. She battled cancer for what turned out to be a little less than 4 months. It was a cancer of unknown origin that spread to brain, liver, and adrenal gland. They said a few days before she passed that it was probably Small Cell Lung Cancer. Her first symptoms started in late May, so it all went very fast . She passed away on Sept. 17th. I'm still reeling trying to accept she is really gone. Anyone else experienced anything like this?

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By sheilasmithy on Thu, 10-20-11, 23:29

Hi Spudster...I lost my husband to Lung and Brain Cancer. It is horrible to care for someone who is ill and not be able to bring them back to good health. When I drive into my driveway I often feel as tough he is on the other side of the front door waiting to greet me. There are so many triggers which remind me of my loss over and over again. Therapy really helped alot. Instead of internalizing my emotions I was able to privately share my sadness, anger, and other feelings as well.

It helps to honor my husband. Every year I put an ornament with his picture on the tree. Sometimes I will light a candle for him. I've also planted flowers on our property for him.

It will take time for the healing to happen. It is an ongoing process. Remember the fun times you shared with your wife. She may not be here physically but you certainly can communicate with her.

Take Care,

Sheila

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By Cathy2012 on Mon, 02-13-12, 10:23

So sorry for your loss, Spudster. I am currently a lay church counselor and dealing with not only the issue that our pastor has liver cancer, but the grieving that he and his wife are also dealing with. Along with that, we have a member who lost his wife last year and they had been married for 60 years. I wanted to join a support group to learn from others how they are coping and dealing with their losses. I am going to start a grief support group at my church soon and have a sign-up list started.

What I can tell you is that you are doing the right thing by trying to find support through a group. If there is a grief support group in your area that you could attend, that would be great, too.

If there is anything I can do, please let me know.

Sincerely,
Cathy

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